for Family Transitions

How to Address Objections

If your future mate has objections, this is a great opportunity to show your care for them by listening to, empathizing with and respecting those concerns. From there, it's a short step to reassuring them. Use the answers below and highlight how a Collaborative Prenup is different from the others:

A Prenuptial Agreement Means We Don’t Trust Each Other
While that is often true with traditional prenups, a Collaborative Prenuptial agreement can only be created in a trusting atmosphere where both future mates feel free to offer “full disclosure” regarding their goals, expectations, assets and debts. Additionally, you create your agreeement together that is appropriate to your circumstance rather than being governed by the one size-fits-all laws of the state in which you live.

A Collaborative Prenup Isn't Romantic
Because the process of creating a Collaborative Prenup necessitates that you both talk about goals and expectations for the future, many couples report that these “intimate” revelations often led to increased romantic feelings between them.

Prenuptial Agreements Always Favor the Husband

In order to be upheld by the court, prenuptial agreements must be fair and equitable in the eyes of the law. Prenups actually empower women by assigning a monetary worth to non-monetary activities (for stay-at-home moms, for example). This protects women who may have sacrificed a career to raise families.

Neither of Us Has a Lot of Assets
Hopefully, your future will be filled with success — individually and collectively.
A prenuptial agreement can address how you want to handle your financial success or your liabilities.

We Love Each Other. We’re Not Going to Ever Get Divorced
Sadly, as divorce statistics demonstrate, many “happily ever afters” turn out quite differently. There’s no such thing as 20/20 clairvoyance, so having an “insurance policy” is simply wise and prudent. You can also mention that prenuptial agreements define what happens to martial assets in the event of death, as well as divorce.

I’ll Be Worried All the Time
In fact, the opposite is true. A prenup provides tremendous peace of mind for both husband and wife in a marriage. With your decisions memorialized in your Collaborative Prenup, you’ll both be able to sleep at night knowing that your most important goals and concerns have been met and are protected.